Where I come from, your relationships aren't a performance, a nice-to-have, or a mere soft skill used to climb the ladder.
Instead, they were understood to be the most valuable thing you'd ever own and inform the quality of the life you'd lead. Plus, there was an artful etiquette and stewardship to them. You gave first. You asked the second question. You showed up before you needed anything.
Then, I spent ten years in the communications industry, sitting across from founders and executives, and noticed I was using the exact same skills my family taught me to generate interpersonal understanding with anyone, and they worked every time. People told me things they hadn't told their own teams (and even relatives), prompting me to think, "Now I totally get why you are the way you are, and I want to know you better." Spoiler alert: some of these people have become my dearest friends, business advisors, and people I'd call to care for my herb garden while I'm away.
Off The Record is my family's method, packaged into 45 question-cards. It isn't a game. Instead, it's the thing I was taught before I knew it was an essential skill, reaping life's greatest reward: quality relationships that last a lifetime.
With kindness,
Kate Terentieva
Founder, Off The Record®
You're not. In fact, your instinct is spot on. We're in a relationship recession.
One in five American adults now reports having no close friends, roughly double the share from the early 1990s (Pew Research Center, 2024). The Surgeon General called it an epidemic.
Yet, the quality of our relationships is the #1 predictor of a long, happy, and healthy life — something Harvard's Center For Adult Development found through their 85-year study!
This isn't a you or me problem. Instead, it's a part of our current societal structure, but the solution isn't impossible: more quality conversations = more quality time spent = stronger relationships = happy you & me!
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