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I WAS RAISED TO BELONG.

Where I come from, your relationships aren't a performance, a nice-to-have, or a mere soft skill used to climb the ladder.

Instead, they were understood to be the most valuable thing you'd ever own and inform the quality of the life you'd lead. Plus, there was an artful etiquette and stewardship to them. You gave first. You asked the second question. You showed up before you needed anything.

Then, I spent ten years in the communications industry, sitting across from founders and executives, and noticed I was using the exact same skills my family taught me to generate interpersonal understanding with anyone, and they worked every time. People told me things they hadn't told their own teams (and even relatives), prompting me to think, "Now I totally get why you are the way you are, and I want to know you better." Spoiler alert: some of these people have become my dearest friends, business advisors, and people I'd call to care for my herb garden while I'm away.

Off The Record is my family's method, packaged into 45 question-cards. It isn't a game. Instead, it's the thing I was taught before I knew it was an essential skill, reaping life's greatest reward: quality relationships that last a lifetime.

With kindness,
Kate Terentieva
Founder, Off The Record®

"maybe I'm being dramatic..."

You're not. In fact, your instinct is spot on. We're in a relationship recession.

One in five American adults now reports having no close friends, roughly double the share from the early 1990s (Pew Research Center, 2024). The Surgeon General called it an epidemic.

Yet, the quality of our relationships is the #1 predictor of a long, happy, and healthy life — something Harvard's Center For Adult Development found through their 85-year study!

This isn't a you or me problem. Instead, it's a part of our current societal structure, but the solution isn't impossible: more quality conversations = more quality time spent = stronger relationships = happy you & me!

  • How to Move Beyond Small Talk: Building Closer Connections

    Founder Kate joins Whitney Port to explore how authentic communication can transform both our personal and professional lives in a world that often keeps us at a distance. For fellow fans of The Hills, yes, our team did in fact have a millennial freak-out about this conversation.

  • How To Respond To “Tell Me About Yourself”

    Ultimately, there’s no secret formula to cracking this question. But TGT's Emily McGowan gathered notes from her own experience, as well as reached out to a few varied experts in the field — a communication expert (that's us!), psychotherapist, and even a casting director — to help point us all in the right direction. Whether you’re prepping for an interview, or just wanting to perfect your intro for dates or networking, here’s how to build a thoughtful reply to “tell me about yourself.”

  • The Fun Way To Banish Awkward Silence

    "If your New Year's resolution is all about deepening connections, Off The Record is your game changer. Forget the surface-level—this deck of 90 prompts dives straight into the heartfelt and the unforgettable. From nostalgic memories to your wildest dreams, you’ll be sparking real conversations in no time. Guaranteed to bring laughs, insights, and zero awkwardness." - Kate M., Girlboss Brand Partnerships Manager

  • Pour The Wine & Put Out The Snacks

    "This isn’t a party game—it’s a clever way to transition from small talk to deeper conversations. Each round, a player draws a card with two questions—starting with the top one and then diving deeper with the follow-up. We played it recently at the Camille Styles Editors’ Summit, and I was surprised by how quickly we peeled back layers and shared meaningful insights. If you want to strengthen your connections and truly understand the people in your life, this game is a must-have." - Team Camille Styles

  • How to Get Past Small Talk & Form Real Connections

    It’s hard to make friends as an adult. And even when you do hit it off with someone promising, bridging the gap from surface-level acquaintance to meaningful friendship and connection requires a skill set many have forgotten. Kate Terentieva, creator of Off The Record, says our digital lifestyle is partly to blame.

  • Connection Isn’t Complicated (We Just Make It Weird)

    This episode is for you if you’ve ever sat at a networking event dreading the “what do you do?” convo, felt lonely in a room full of people, or just want to be better at making people feel seen (and also heard because that’s different).

  • The Power of Deep Conversations

    Kate has a passion for bringing people closer together through genuine dialogue. Even Jay Shetty uses these cards, so you know they’re something special. During our chat, host Cooper Chapman put Off The Record to the test—answering some of its thought-provoking questions himself. It got real! We also dive into why deep conversations are so important, how Off The Record came to life, and the impact it’s making.

  • Getting Off the Record: A Q&A with Founder Kate Terentieva

    We are our connections. Kate Terentieva understands that all too well, so she made a card game that brings the connections past surface level and into rich and meaningful territory. The questions like “What was your first job?“, “Do you think we can save the environment?”, and “Are you okay being the villain in someone else’s story?” spearhead conversations about culture, society, politics, and life. Off The Record was the most fun team BeautyNews NYC had in a hot minute, so they sat down with Kate herself.

  • Creating Meaningful Adult Relationships

    Our CEO Kate joins Love Is Blind's Kelly Chase to discuss the complexities of adult relationships and the importance of genuine connections. From the challenges of superficial conversations to the comfort of being prepared, Kate shares valuable insights into fostering real communication and understanding in both personal and professional spheres.

  • How to Go Beyond Your Comfort Zone To Grow Both Personally and Professionally

    It feels most comfortable to stick with what we are familiar with. But anyone who has achieved great success will tell you that true growth comes from pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. What are some ways that influential people have pushed themselves out of their comfort zone to grow both personally and professionally? As a part of this series, Team Medium had the pleasure of interviewing our founder Kate.

  • Mastering the Art of Conversation

    As much as we love to hate it, why is small talk actually the foundation for deeper, more meaningful connections? That's what host Becca Nicholls explores with Off The Record founder Kate Terentieva on this episode of There She Glows.

  • skip the small talk

    Esteemed relationships writer Brie Hogan asked Kate why she created [Off The Record], how to actually use the cards without it feeling awkward, and why it’s totally normal to be a little scared of asking real questions—but also why those deep, deeeeep questions are actually everything when it comes to creating authentic connection with those we love (or at least like a little).

  • The Best High School Graduation Gifts: College Essentials, Mementos and More

    Whether they're headed off to college trade school or taking a gap year to travel the world, your new grads have a wide future ahead of them — and a whole lot of growing to do.Show your grads how proud you are with the perfect gift, from dorm essentials for the incoming college student to personalized picks they'll cherish for a lifetime. Shop Today curated a list of the best gifts (including Off The Record!) for your high school graduate to send them well wishes as they close this chapter.